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What’s your excuse?

When I first watched this video I was just amazed at how brilliant it is. The whole video is filled with nothing else but excuses of all kinds. Nothing else is said, however everybody gets the message, which is communicated through the visual and the tone of voice at the end. The company’s slogan at the end fits in very nicely, but is not even necessary for understanding the point that this video makes.

We all do it. Make excuses, I mean. As if the world is not yet filled with enough real obstacles to deal with, we invent our own. We invent imaginary obstacles, so that we can keep lying to ourselves and to others that we really wanted to do something but it was out of our reach. We just couldn’t do it. We are excused then.

However, it is a lie. If we really wanted to do something, we would do it, no matter what. We might not do it very good or effective, we might not even succeed at all, but we would do it anyway. Just like this guy in the video: if he wants to play basketball, he will play basketball. It may not be the basketball that we normally think of, but he will play basketball. And he is even good at it.

Why do we make excuses? Why don’t we say instead: “I changed my mind. I don’t think that goal is worth the effort. I guess I don’t want it enough”?

Well, I think we rather have excuses, so that we don’t have to ask ourselves what our real goals are then. If that was not what we really wanted, then what is? Maybe we are afraid of the answer that we don’t even have any real goals in life. But having real goals is equally scary. Choosing our goals and committing to them makes us responsible to ourselves and others. We don’t want that responsibility. We would rather stay with our little excuses.

What do you think about all of this? Leave a comment below.

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How do you change?

You ARE changing whether you like it or not. Nothing ever stays the same. It can be fast change or gradual change. It can be for the better or for the worse. So, the real question is: How do you change yourself for the better? A question for a million dollars.

First, you have to know what do you want. What do you want to change and what is the result that you want. If you don’t know where you are going, chances are you will never get there. You have to be specific and focused. If your target is too vague, you will not get there. You can’t be or do EVERYTHING at the same time. You can’t become a master at every skill, go to every place you want, meet all the people that are interesting to you, earn all the money that you want and save the world while doing it. It is impossible because time and energy you have are finite.

But the good news is that you can be or do almost ANYTHING, if you know what it is and you stay focused on your specific goal. For as long as it needs. As Lao Tzu said: “A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.” If you stay focused and keep going in the same direction, each and every step is taking you closer to your goal. If you are not focused, you just wander around. (Of course I am talking metaphorically here. It may be that just physically wandering around the globe is what you really want in your life, and I think that is ok).

Another thing that you need to do besides choosing your goal is to learn how to enjoy the journey as it unfolds itself before your eyes. Your journey will inevitably be full of roadblocks and other difficulties and if you don’t love the journey itself you may decide that it is too hard and quit. Know that your goal is only valuable because there is a journey to be taken to get there. And it is also important that you really care about your goal. If you really care about it, you will have less difficulty persisting where others may quit.